Stress Management, Personal and Inner Child Counselling

(online - email - available anywhere).

Life Guide - Facilitator - Lecturer & Counsellor/Counselor Klaas Tuinman M.A.

Follow-up and Support Counselling to Keynote presentations, Seminars & Workshops
and Distance Counselling (internet-email)

Dawn Cove Abbey Online Outreach: who are motivated to
change the quality of their lives - and who have the courage to
take the necessary steps.

The problems people encounter in their lives are often behaviour
problems (one example is the roles, which they adopted as coping
strategies as the result of growing up in a dysfunctional family.
Help is available here for you to recover from, and survive, the
effects of the negativity.

The Counseling/Coaching/Counselling services are: professional,
experienced; providing discreet and confidential help, and using a
sensitive, caring, and holistic approach to personal
growth/empowerment, healing and development.

Immediate help is just a mouse-click, or phone call away:
available in-person, online or by telephone (when
required).
Remember, "If you are not part of the solution, you are
likely part of the problem".

"Refusing to accept things as they are is the mother of
invention (healing)" - start changing "things" - now.

Simply re-arranging the contents of the "box" usually doesn't work – usually, something needs to be added – something “new”, or
different.
Learn to take control and ownership of your life, develop and grow: one session at a time (no locked-in lengths of time)!
And please use the resources, information and help on this site to assist you on your way
Talk with me about your situation - I can help: Talking heals - Talk therapy is medicine that works: strong medicine! (So does "writing
therapy").

You are your own healer - my role is to be your coach, counsellor/counselor, guide, mentor and facilitator.

OTHER ADVANTAGES of Online email & webcam
counselling/coaching/counseling

If you have doubts - remember, many universities now
offer online courses.
See "Contact & Information" how to discover this
effective method with NO Risk to you!
There is NO obligation if you inquire or have questions.
You will receive a reply with NO undesired follow-up
until you initiate the next contact. And there is a special
introductory offer - YOU decide.

15 years online counseling/coaching/counselling/help
experience
Immediate - no waiting
Accessible:
Reduces Embarrassment
Convenient & Efficient
It is SAFE - you are much less vulnerable
Anonymity is appealing
Available 24/7!

And much more: see "Contact & Information" for expanded
details - and "how to get started".

The journey to recovery and healing from the effects of dysfunctional, abusive families and relationships starts with assessing your own traits
and characteristics.
Surviving, Recovering & Healing from (overcoming the effects of) the Dysfunctional Families, Codependency & Codependent Relationships:

The road to recovery/ healing is simple in theory but difficult in practice, as has already been mentioned (the workshop provides
more steps, detail and support).
This is especially true if you were robbed of your childhood, or perhaps violated in some way, and that fragile inner child was
wounded so deeply.

Recovery/Healing Starting Points:
Recovery/Healing, overcoming/surviving dysfunctional situations & lifestyles - basic steps:)

Break the "taboo": Don't Trust, Don't Feel, Don't Touch, Don't Talk (don't worry about keeping the family's secrets any longer)!
Accepting & recognizing that you need to change: that acceptance has to come from inside you (and accepting that others will not
do the changing).
Wanting to change - giving yourself permission to be ready and willing to do the necessary and right or appropriate changes:
permission to transform yourself, and transform your life. Also see the M orningStar Inspirations (morale boosters) page.

26 years private practice - 12 years online/distance counselling

Evening & Weekend Appointments Available - "in your home-sessions" possible - (within reasonable distance)

Dawn Cove Abbey Empowerment Outreach is a registered business in the province of Nova Scotia, Canada

When you are ready to make the change/transition, please call, write or email right now without obligation (and strictly confidential)

See Contact-Fees-Info or EMAIL: outreach@dawncoveabbey.org or me directly at fr_klaas@yahoo.ca

Healing, Recovery and Reconciliation
All ages - no one has ever been turned
away because of financial circumstances.

I believe that real healing, for actual people takes place in
"real" settings - including having a place to withdraw to - such
as nature trails, the seaside; also that solitude, art & music
contribute to healing and inner peace: to rekindle your
creativity - in whatever way. It provides inner peace, and
resolves internal conflict.

Healing is a Process: NOT a formula!

Talk therapy: new ways to live life better - helping to think
"outside the box", because;

If you always do what you've always done - you'll always get
what you always got.
IF what you're doing isn't working - try something (anything) else!

One definition of "insanity" is "to repeat doing the things that
never worked before and expecting a different result".

Counseling/Coaching/Counselling Clinics - Workshops - Discussion Groups / Seminars - Keynote Presentations

Office Locations        Serving                               Telephone:   (902) 740-6237                            Office/Clinic Hours:

Yarmouth: (Shelburne & Digby County -Clare - Argyle - Pubnico)   Nova Scotia NS                      Monday: 9:00am - 4:00pm (bi-weekly)
Bridgewater:      (Lunenburg - Mahone Bay - Liverpool - Halifax - Dartmouth) Nova Scotia NS         Tuesday: 10:am - 4:00pm (bi-weekly)
Kentville: (New Minas - Wolfville - Middleton - Windsor Bedford - Halifax) Nova Scotia NS             Thursday: 10:am - 4:00pm (bi-weekly)

Distance Counseling/Coaching/Counselling - anywhere - anytime - 24/7

In-person Counselling By Appointment Only: Counseling/Counselling by email and/or telephone anytime (Contact-Fees-Info)

Empowerment Keynote Presentations, Seminars & Workshops anywhere
(includes all regions of Nova Scotia: HRM, Digby, the Valley & South Shore, Amherst - Truro - Cape Breton).

About Life Coaching

Life Coaching is simply an old familiar practice applied in a new
way: it is a relatively new professional approach that most people
haven't had any direct experience with.

One of the biggest misconceptions is that coaching/counseling is
about giving advice. I believe that all of the answers we seek are
inside of ourselves.

You shouldn't go to a coach to be told what to do. The reason to
go to a coach is to empower yourself to listen to your own inner
voice.

Seeking outside help can be beneficial to your development or it
can be an escape - the choice is yours.

Pushing the responsibility away from your self, from your own truth,
and going with someone else's view is only a short term solution.

Coaching is about permanent and fundamental shifts in your view.
Einstein said, "We can't solve problems by using the same kind of
thinking we used when we created them." A coach can help you
shift your thinking into a new perspective. A coach can be a mirror;
but only to a willing observer.

Just as Athletic Coaches help athletes to excel in their sports, Life
Coaches help people excel in their lives.
When the athlete's progress is blocked, a good coach takes him or
her through to compete at a higher level. You also have times in
your life when you are blocked, when you feel stuck or would like a
better quality of life.

In working together with me, you will have an experienced and
qualified partner to take you through any challenging period. My
approach is one of caring about you and the progress you will
make: it's like having your own Life Coach, or Life Tutor at your
side.

If you are ready to change, no problem is too small or challenge
too great for us to tackle together.

See Self-Worth / Self-Esteem

It is your time to eliminate your core irrational beliefs
We live in a crazy, sick culture with many casualties -
people trying to "fit in" into something that doesn't work.

Instead of keeping on trying to fit-in, maybe it's time to re-
invent yourself, and "fit-in" on your terms, not the sick
culture's terms.
Learn how to be you - and at the same time cope with life
around you, differently from what you've been doing.

Recover your inner child - your "child within".

INNER-LOST CHILD PERSONAL COUNSELLING / Coaching
Individual Personal Recovery, Healing and Empowerment

Overcome the effects of growing up in a dysfunctional
family (Adult Children)
Healing the Inner Child &
the “Lost Child” syndrome/role healing (Counseling /
coaching (counselling) - Helping the Inner Child learn
to stop "acting-out"
Learn to re-connect to yourself and others
Improve your inter-personal communication skills
Deal constructively with some of the following:

Research has shown that working with a
coach/counseller/counseler can assist couples with the insight &
tools to aid them in building strong, committed & fulfilling
relationships for the long-term. Relationship conflicts should always
be taken seriously as they can have disastrous consequences if left
unchecked.

Help is available right here: Develop Strategies that Work

Conflict Resolution: Resolve conflict in a way that leads
to deeper intimacy.
Affair Recovery: Survive infidelity, rebuild trust and
strengthen the foundation of your relationship.
Communication Issues: Strengthen communication to
increase mutual understanding and harmony.
Blended Family Issues: Build harmony and healthy,
realistic expectations in blended families.
Abuse Issues
Separation & Divorce Recovery – also see
Separation/Divorce counseling/coaching/counselling
below.
Defining Mutual Goals
Dealing more effectively with Parent & In-Law
Relationships
Understand and value the different needs of men and
women.
Enhance the joy and passion of sexual intimacy.
Identify and replace mis-beliefs and negative thinking
that contribute to personal and relational stress.
Establish healthy boundaries.
Overcome & deal with the effects of addictions.
Heal past individual wounds that impact marriages.
Resolve parent-child conflicts and increase your child’s
desire to co-operate.
Successfully manage the challenges of the Teen years.
Create or restore healthy family relationships among
family members of all ages.

RELATIONSHIP ENHANCEMENT COUNSELLING / (getting your
relationship back on track)

This type of counseling/coaching/counselling will strengthen your
relationship.

Sessions are tailor-made and you choose the focus you want, such as:

Communicating About Problems Openly & Honestly
Practicing Win-Win Communication
Defining Mutual Life Goals
Rediscovering Romance & Love
Appreciating Personal Differences
Developing Unity and Respect
Overcoming Relational Boredom
Learning How to Meet Your Partner's Needs

PRE-MARRIAGE & RE-MARRIAGE Counseling/Coaching/Counselling

Pre-marriage counseling/coaching/counselling allows two individuals
explore the nature of their relationship.

Topics that are looked at may include:

Individual Expectations
Effective Communication Styles
Personality Appreciation
Beliefs about Roles, Sex, Money, Religion, and Parenting.

Pre-marriage counselling/counseling can provide couples with the
skills, information, and self-help tools to help create a solid foundation
for their relationship.

SEPARATION / DIVORCE COUNSELING - COACHING -
COUNSELLING - THERAPY

There are times when a relationship ends in separation or divorce.

This can produce feelings of loneliness, anger, loss and
disappointment.

Research has shown that having a strong social support can prove
invaluable; as can talking things out with a caring professional.

Counseling/Coaching/Counselling can help deal with the
emotional and practical issues that arise from separation and help
you get on with your life.

Distance / on-line (email) with webcam, telephone & MSN options - Counseling/Coaching/Counselling

New! Whether you are travelling, live far from centres where counseling/coaching/counselling is easily accessible or just prefer the
convenience of having professional support brought directly to your home, email, webcam or phone; counselling is either at your finger tips, or
just a call away.

Try it - you have nothing to lose but your problem(s)

Email, Webcam, MSN &Telephone Counseling/Counselling:
Traditionally, professional counselling/counseling has been provided in the therapist's office.
However, thanks to evolving technology, I can be even more responsive to the different needs and wishes of clients. Thus, I am happy to offer
the following additional options:

Email counseling/coaching/counselling
internet webcam counseling/coaching/counselling (with voice if desired and where possible),
telephone counseling/coaching/counselling (in special circumstances),
in-home counselling/counseling (in special circumstances).

Webcam and telephone counseling/counselling offer a powerful resource to everyone:
It is always available to people travelling on business or for pleasure. It can be delivered to the home or office of people living anywhere in the
world. For those living in remote rural areas it provides professional counselling/counseling without the travel. People living in Yarmouth and
surrounding areas can also access this support in the privacy of their homes (also available to others living further away if they are prepared to
defray travelling costs).

Stress Management, Personal, and Inner Child Counselling

Including Family, Marriage, and Anger Management Counselling/Coaching
All ages - backgrounds & circumstances

When life hurts - there is
immediate help for long term hope

Specializing in online & in-person counseling / coaching and working with survivors/victims of Dysfunctional (or alcoholic) families - inner-
child work, especially with the "Lost Child"; in a safe place with a caring, experienced coach/counsellor/counselor to talk with: professional,
confidential, and effective: and offering

an effective non-directive approach to helping people heal ("process healing") and deal with various life issues to heal and recover and
build more satisfying, empowered lives.
two ways: (1) in-person and, (2) through Email (online) Life Coaching - Counseling/Counselling (optional: MSN, Webcam &Telephone)
see below for details. Although headquartered in Nova Scotia, help is available anywhere using Internet technology. One of the most
experienced distance counselors online today.

When people are born they know - and have the potential - to love, be loved, be caring and nurturing, how to do family and relationships - and
how to fit in with others.

Unfortunately, life circumstances occur for some, that result in them forgetting how to do some, or all, of these, and they make choices
and engage in actions that don't work well for them: these are called dysfunctional.
They become estranged from themselves, and disconnected from others.
The good news is that all of these innate traits can be re-called, healed, renewed and expanded.

People can, and do, recover and heal from life's negative blows.

By "awakening" to their current self-estrangement and disconnectedness, people can re-connect and end the self-estrangement -
through a healing journey - with guidance from experienced help.
As you read this page, you may be one of those who is "awakening" and looking for a way to begin your "journey back".

NOTE 1: Most cases of "emotional problems" or "mental illness" are not illnesses or diseases:

they are REACTIONS to trying to live, fit-in and cope with a world that does not make "sense"
- a world/culture that is dysfunctional.
And their reactions (which get labelled) are their personal way of dealing with that.
It's their way of trying to heal - of trying to find a way to live within that environment - on their own terms.

Dawn Cove Abbey Empowerment Outreach - New Beginning Online
LIFE COUNSELING / COACHING / COUNSELLING and CONSULTING FOR INDIVIDUALS, COUPLES & FAMILIES

Anger Management/Control Coaching/Counselling
(counseling): manage and control anger in your home
and work environments using skills and insights that
empower you to take healthy control of your life.

Separation & Divorce Recovery – see Separation &
Divorce coaching/counselling/counseling on this page.

The healing process here involves coaching & facilitating (most
people think of it as counselling / counseling) as well as providing
information resources.

There is no "set formula": it is a personal, individualized process
that unfolds according to your needs as they arise and your
progress.

NOTE 2: all coaching/counseling/counselling, Seminars,
Workshops, Presentations, Lectures here at Dawn Cove Abbey
focus around the central theme of Awakening from
self-estrangement and lost connections: your journey along a less
travelled road.

I believe that you will feel hope again as you learn there IS….

real help when your life is overwhelmed by the many
challenges facing you: perhaps recovery, healing and
self-empowerment are lacking.
a way to overcome depression, anxiety and stress and
feel good again
a way to recover and heal after losing a loved one, by
death or after a relationship ends
dealing with addictions - dysfunctional backgrounds and
their effects
help and guidance to develop and build
communication skills and understanding to improve your
relationships
a way to end and transform patterns of negative thoughts
and behaviours.

THERE IS A WAY…

TOGETHER WE CAN FIND ONE THAT WORKS FOR YOU!

Coaching & facilitation - counseling / counselling ("therapy")
provide an opportunity to make a change,

(it's called re-inventing yourself) for the better, because:

a counselor / coach / counsellor is able to help you gain insight,
improve communication and develop strategies to better
manage the specifics of your family dynamics.

(See below for more detail on “coaching” vs
“counseling/counselling”)

Unresolved matters mostly result in frustration, anger, and
depression.

Above all, remember: people who really want to heal will
find a way; those who don't, will find an excuse.

COUPLES, FAMILY and MARRIAGE (Marital) COUNSELLING/
COACHING / counseling / THERAPY
Dysfunctional Marital discord is widespread, and people are concerned;
approximately 50% of all marriages end in divorce.

Many people (couples) neglect to regularly invest in their relational
growth & find themselves in a place of relational disharmony.

Marital/Couples Counselling/Coaching/Counseling can help you can
learn satisfying.

The counseling and coaching /
counselling is supported by various
Seminars, Workshops and Retreats
Cove Abbey's Healing Circle services.

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(902) 740-6237