Building Trust: Trust and Trusting

What is trust? A short description

Trust is: letting others know your feelings, emotions
and reactions, and having the confidence in them to
respect you and to not take advantage of you.
Trust is: the glue or cement of relationships that
allows you to need others to fulfill yourself.
Trust is: opening yourself up (self-disclosure) to let
others in on your background, problems, concerns, and
mistakes with the assurance that they will not
ostracize you because of these things.
Trust is: the act of placing yourself in the vulnerable
position of relying on others to treat you in a fair,
open, and honest way.

Trust is one of the most difficult things to build and
acquire. And while it may take some time to break that
trust
- if it is broken - it will take much, much longer to rebuild.

Truly, rebuilding trust a second time, after it has been
broken is a monumental task - and takes a long time. This is
mainly because in offering trust, we make ourselves
vulnerable - and once the vulnerability has been violated, we
"play it much safer" the second time around.

People don't trust, or have trouble developing trust, if
they have:

Experienced a great deal of emotional and/or physical
abuse and/or neglect.
Been emotionally hurt in the past and are not willing
to risk getting hurt in the future.

All of the above are essential components to Trust, and
Building Trust.

Dawn Cove Abbey
Deerfield, (Yarmouth County) Nova Scotia, Canada
2000-2009
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Also:Read "Trust Begins With You" article (rtf format - click HERE)
And "Trust Issues in Relationships" (rtf format - click HERE)
And "Rules For Being Human"

Also available: Coaching/Counselling (Distance Counselling Works!) see Contact-Us for details:
also a Trust-Building Wo rkshop

Building Trust: Trust and Trusting

I sincerely hope that you take the Less Travelled Road
and that it brings awakening and healing to you.

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One of the first steps is to stop always looking for,
and assuming there are, "hidden agendas and motives"
on everyone else's part - that simply isn't so.

That means to stop being suspicious all the time, of
everyone - that simply isn't fair - and makes it
difficult, if not impossible for you to learn trust, and
others to actually "see" you as an authentic, fair-
minded person.

Much more on Trust and Trust Building is available in
more detail in our Trust workshop).

Starting point for rebuilding trust. Ask yourself:

Why do I lack trust in the persons, groups, or
institutions listed above?
What beliefs do I hold that are behind my lack of
trust in the persons, groups, or institutions listed in
above?
Why can't I refute my Irrational Belief and replace
with a positive one?
Why can't I affirm new personal beliefs?
What does my experience tell me about changes I
need to make to develop my ability to trust?
What are the remaining blocks to developing my sense
of trust?
What am I willing to do to continue developing my
sense of trust?

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