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Deerfield, Nova Scotia 2009
Also see the HealingCircle-workshop page - workshops available anywhere.
Obsession: to obsess or to be obsessed is to have your mind excessively
preoccupied with a single emotion or topic; as well as having a compulsive
preoccupation with a fixed, or unreasonable idea - or an unwanted feeling or emotion.
This is often accompanied by symptoms of anxiety.
This page is about the reality of “obsession”, and provides examples of obsessive
behaviour; it provides an introduction to this reality, with detailed characteristics
further below, as well as providing contrasts to “healthy, genuine love” throughout.
In Obsession, obsessive feelings are often mistaken for love because people
rationalize that, “It must be love if I can’t think of anyone else.”
Obsession is misleading and destructive.
Obsession often becomes worse with time.
Obsession kills love every time.
The more time and effort invested in an unhealthy obsession based relationship
the more intense the obsession can become and the more damage is done.
Obsessions in too many cases - kills.
People in an obsessed state have a one-track mind where the other person is
concerned to the point where they often lose touch with who they are as an
individual.
This loss of individuality creates a vicious circle of behavior where the obsessed
person grows more and more dependant on the other person
and on the relationship in general (also see Codependent/Codependency).
Even so-called unrequited love (love that is not returned) can become an
overwhelming obsession.
When one person believes they are in a relationship that doesn’t truly exist,
or when one person is more invested in an existing relationship than the other,
the foundation for an obsession has been laid.
preoccupied with a single emotion or topic; as well as having a compulsive
preoccupation with a fixed, or unreasonable idea - or an unwanted feeling or emotion.
This is often accompanied by symptoms of anxiety.
This page is about the reality of “obsession”, and provides examples of obsessive
behaviour; it provides an introduction to this reality, with detailed characteristics
further below, as well as providing contrasts to “healthy, genuine love” throughout.
In Obsession, obsessive feelings are often mistaken for love because people
rationalize that, “It must be love if I can’t think of anyone else.”
Obsession is misleading and destructive.
Obsession often becomes worse with time.
Obsession kills love every time.
The more time and effort invested in an unhealthy obsession based relationship
the more intense the obsession can become and the more damage is done.
Obsessions in too many cases - kills.
People in an obsessed state have a one-track mind where the other person is
concerned to the point where they often lose touch with who they are as an
individual.
This loss of individuality creates a vicious circle of behavior where the obsessed
person grows more and more dependant on the other person
and on the relationship in general (also see Codependent/Codependency).
Even so-called unrequited love (love that is not returned) can become an
overwhelming obsession.
When one person believes they are in a relationship that doesn’t truly exist,
or when one person is more invested in an existing relationship than the other,
the foundation for an obsession has been laid.
Love versus Obsession
Obsessive Love - outline:
The early stage of obsessive love is characterized by:
* an instantaneous and overwhelming attraction to another person.
It is at this point the relationally dependent person becomes "hooked" on a romantic interest, usually resulting from
the slightest bit of attention from the person they are attracted to.
That should be the first “warning flag”.
More detailed descriptions, symptoms and behaviors of obsession follow further below.
How do you know if it is really love or simply an obsession?
“Love” involves many things, with trust being the most important.
Deeply insecure, controlling people try to defend their jealous or even violent actions by claiming that they are in love.
But the reality is that Love is a beautiful, giving and trusting action between two people, and Obsession is an action of
one person towards (against) another.
Love and Obsession have some similar qualities, but are very different,
here are some guidelines to distinguish them:
Obsession results in a constant or frequent fear of infidelity.
Obsession results in constantly demanding that s/he tell you where s/he has been,
and what s/he has been doing.
Obsession wants to control who s/he he sees and insists they drop all former friends.
It is importantly to understand that those who do not trust the other
when they do account for themselves, are not really in love.
When there are infidelity issues – it is time to reevaluate your relationship.
Where there is no trust, love does not stand a chance of survival.
Another obsession indicator is having a constant fear that s/he will leave you,
and you wonder if you can even begin to survive on your own without her/him.
No one wants to begin to think about what would happen if they lost their true love,
but constantly obsessing over this fear is - - - obsessing.
Where there is a need to be in constant contact with the one you “love”,
it is unhealthy both for both.
Being constantly afraid of losing him/her, feeling depressed at the thought, and even provoking arguments because of
that fear, indicates that this is not really love
– but obsession instead.
Love is a beautiful thing.
It should bring with it no fear,
no worries of desertion
and certainly should produce a trust between two people;
if it doesn’t,
it isn’t love.
Any relationship that does not have this peace and trust – is at the verge of disaster.
Obsession has another dimension, too - compulsiveness.
* If you frequently call your special person at home or work just to see if s/he is there or even worse,
* if you drive by their home or workplace just to see their car then you should be concerned.
* Accusing him/her of cheating,
* demanding to know every single detail of his life away from you
* and trying to control him/her at all times points to obsession.
Being obsessed with someone will only get you hurt
– having someone who is obsessed with you will get you hurt.
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Obsessive Love - outline:
The early stage of obsessive love is characterized by:
* an instantaneous and overwhelming attraction to another person.
It is at this point the relationally dependent person becomes "hooked" on a romantic interest, usually resulting from
the slightest bit of attention from the person they are attracted to.
That should be the first “warning flag”.
More detailed descriptions, symptoms and behaviors of obsession follow further below.
How do you know if it is really love or simply an obsession?
“Love” involves many things, with trust being the most important.
Deeply insecure, controlling people try to defend their jealous or even violent actions by claiming that they are in love.
But the reality is that Love is a beautiful, giving and trusting action between two people, and Obsession is an action of
one person towards (against) another.
Love and Obsession have some similar qualities, but are very different,
here are some guidelines to distinguish them:
Obsession results in a constant or frequent fear of infidelity.
Obsession results in constantly demanding that s/he tell you where s/he has been,
and what s/he has been doing.
Obsession wants to control who s/he he sees and insists they drop all former friends.
It is importantly to understand that those who do not trust the other
when they do account for themselves, are not really in love.
When there are infidelity issues – it is time to reevaluate your relationship.
Where there is no trust, love does not stand a chance of survival.
Another obsession indicator is having a constant fear that s/he will leave you,
and you wonder if you can even begin to survive on your own without her/him.
No one wants to begin to think about what would happen if they lost their true love,
but constantly obsessing over this fear is - - - obsessing.
Where there is a need to be in constant contact with the one you “love”,
it is unhealthy both for both.
Being constantly afraid of losing him/her, feeling depressed at the thought, and even provoking arguments because of
that fear, indicates that this is not really love
– but obsession instead.
Love is a beautiful thing.
It should bring with it no fear,
no worries of desertion
and certainly should produce a trust between two people;
if it doesn’t,
it isn’t love.
Any relationship that does not have this peace and trust – is at the verge of disaster.
Obsession has another dimension, too - compulsiveness.
* If you frequently call your special person at home or work just to see if s/he is there or even worse,
* if you drive by their home or workplace just to see their car then you should be concerned.
* Accusing him/her of cheating,
* demanding to know every single detail of his life away from you
* and trying to control him/her at all times points to obsession.
Being obsessed with someone will only get you hurt
– having someone who is obsessed with you will get you hurt.
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Indicators of Obsession:
* An instant attraction to romantic interest, usually occurring within the first few minutes of meeting.
* An immediate urge to rush into a relationship regardless of compatibility.
* Becoming "hooked on the look" of another, focusing on the person's physical characteristics
while ignoring personality differences.
* Unrealistic fantasies about a relationship with a love interest, assigning "magical" qualities to an object of affection.
The beginnings of obsessive, controlling behaviors begin to manifest.
Other aspects, after having made an initial commitment include:
* Unfounded thoughts of infidelity on the part of a partner and demanding accountability for normal daily activities.
* An overwhelming fear of abandonment, including baseless thoughts
of a partner walking out on the relationship in favor of another person.
* The need to constantly be in contact with a love interest via phone, email or in person.
* Strong feelings of mistrust begin to emerge, causing depression, resentment and relational tension.
The continuation and escalation of obsessive, controlling behaviors.
Eventually, it escalates to the following:
* The development of "tunnel vision," which is a situation where the relationally dependent person cannot stop thinking
about a love interest and required his or her constant attention.
* Neurotic, compulsive behaviors, including rapid telephone calls to love interest's place of residence or workplace.
* Unfounded accusations of "cheating" due to extreme anxiety.
* "Drive-bys" around a love interest's home or place of employment, with the goal of assuring that the person is at
where "he or she is supposed to be."
* Physical or electronic monitoring activities, following a love interest's whereabouts
throughout the course of a day to discover daily activities.
* Extreme control tactics, including questioning a love interest's commitment to the relationship (guilt trips) with the
goal of manipulating a love interest into providing more attention.
The final “stage”:
When those have basically resulted in destroying any possibility of keeping a relationship going,
the following tend to emerge:
* Overwhelming feelings of depression (feeling "empty" inside).
* A sudden loss of self-esteem, due to the collapse of the relationship.
* Extreme feelings of self-blame and at times, self-hatred.
* Anger, rage and a desire to seek revenge against a love interest for breaking off the relationship.
* Denial that the relationship has ended and attempting to "win a loved one back" by making promises to "change".
* The use of drugs, alcohol, food or sex to "medicate" the emotional pain.
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* An instant attraction to romantic interest, usually occurring within the first few minutes of meeting.
* An immediate urge to rush into a relationship regardless of compatibility.
* Becoming "hooked on the look" of another, focusing on the person's physical characteristics
while ignoring personality differences.
* Unrealistic fantasies about a relationship with a love interest, assigning "magical" qualities to an object of affection.
The beginnings of obsessive, controlling behaviors begin to manifest.
Other aspects, after having made an initial commitment include:
* Unfounded thoughts of infidelity on the part of a partner and demanding accountability for normal daily activities.
* An overwhelming fear of abandonment, including baseless thoughts
of a partner walking out on the relationship in favor of another person.
* The need to constantly be in contact with a love interest via phone, email or in person.
* Strong feelings of mistrust begin to emerge, causing depression, resentment and relational tension.
The continuation and escalation of obsessive, controlling behaviors.
Eventually, it escalates to the following:
* The development of "tunnel vision," which is a situation where the relationally dependent person cannot stop thinking
about a love interest and required his or her constant attention.
* Neurotic, compulsive behaviors, including rapid telephone calls to love interest's place of residence or workplace.
* Unfounded accusations of "cheating" due to extreme anxiety.
* "Drive-bys" around a love interest's home or place of employment, with the goal of assuring that the person is at
where "he or she is supposed to be."
* Physical or electronic monitoring activities, following a love interest's whereabouts
throughout the course of a day to discover daily activities.
* Extreme control tactics, including questioning a love interest's commitment to the relationship (guilt trips) with the
goal of manipulating a love interest into providing more attention.
The final “stage”:
When those have basically resulted in destroying any possibility of keeping a relationship going,
the following tend to emerge:
* Overwhelming feelings of depression (feeling "empty" inside).
* A sudden loss of self-esteem, due to the collapse of the relationship.
* Extreme feelings of self-blame and at times, self-hatred.
* Anger, rage and a desire to seek revenge against a love interest for breaking off the relationship.
* Denial that the relationship has ended and attempting to "win a loved one back" by making promises to "change".
* The use of drugs, alcohol, food or sex to "medicate" the emotional pain.
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Love vs. Obsession - Loving Too Much? - One View
Many romantic relationships fall into these two formats:
an individual is either desperately trying to get someone to love them, or they are desperately trying to keep the
love of a partner by focusing an inordinate amount of their attention on them.
Both are forms of "obsession” - neither of these has anything to do with genuine love.
Obsession is where we obsess over our own emotions.
This is characterized by expressing ourselves on an extremely selfish level.
In doing this, we really are not loving those we have feelings for because we want them to be happy,
even if it means they choose to live their lives without us.
In obsession, people are focused on things that are designed to make them happy by doing everything they
possibly can to get the other individuals to share their lives exclusively with them.
And they will often go to some very extraordinary lengths in order to try to make that happen.
* They romantically chase, sometimes pursue, even physically stalk - those they profess to "love."
* When they engage in relationships with new partners, they tend to be so possessive in their manner of "loving"
that the ones on the receiving end inevitably tend to run for the door to escape what they perceive to be an
extremely oppressive and, essentially, unloving atmosphere.
When the “objects of desire” leave them,
* they continue to chase them and may even harass them with phone calls and letters.
* They appear in desperation at their doors at all hours of the day and night.
* They confront their new partners in jealous rages, intent on venting their emotions while making the lives of
those they profess to love miserable in the process.
* They may even attempt to ruin their careers, reputations and the families, as a form of retaliation
for not being loved enough in return.
They might go so far as having fantasies of killing the object of their love in order to prevent him or her from
sharing a life with someone else.
That is not “loving”.
It is emotional obsession in its most dangerous and destructive form.
It is so different, and so far removed from genuine love that it can't even be categorized as obsession
– because it is a form of psychosis.
When people genuinely give love to others, they selflessly put their happiness ahead of their own.
* They feel their pains, their sorrows.
* They also respect their own right to freedom, should that man or woman choose to exercise that right.
* They extend themselves beyond their own wants and needs to encourage their partners to enjoy rich,
full lives for themselves, risking the possibility that they won't be active participants in their lives in the future.
* They want these individuals to be genuinely happy as they live their lives - with or without us
- because they are capable of truly loving them that much.
~Unknown Source
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Many romantic relationships fall into these two formats:
an individual is either desperately trying to get someone to love them, or they are desperately trying to keep the
love of a partner by focusing an inordinate amount of their attention on them.
Both are forms of "obsession” - neither of these has anything to do with genuine love.
Obsession is where we obsess over our own emotions.
This is characterized by expressing ourselves on an extremely selfish level.
In doing this, we really are not loving those we have feelings for because we want them to be happy,
even if it means they choose to live their lives without us.
In obsession, people are focused on things that are designed to make them happy by doing everything they
possibly can to get the other individuals to share their lives exclusively with them.
And they will often go to some very extraordinary lengths in order to try to make that happen.
* They romantically chase, sometimes pursue, even physically stalk - those they profess to "love."
* When they engage in relationships with new partners, they tend to be so possessive in their manner of "loving"
that the ones on the receiving end inevitably tend to run for the door to escape what they perceive to be an
extremely oppressive and, essentially, unloving atmosphere.
When the “objects of desire” leave them,
* they continue to chase them and may even harass them with phone calls and letters.
* They appear in desperation at their doors at all hours of the day and night.
* They confront their new partners in jealous rages, intent on venting their emotions while making the lives of
those they profess to love miserable in the process.
* They may even attempt to ruin their careers, reputations and the families, as a form of retaliation
for not being loved enough in return.
They might go so far as having fantasies of killing the object of their love in order to prevent him or her from
sharing a life with someone else.
That is not “loving”.
It is emotional obsession in its most dangerous and destructive form.
It is so different, and so far removed from genuine love that it can't even be categorized as obsession
– because it is a form of psychosis.
When people genuinely give love to others, they selflessly put their happiness ahead of their own.
* They feel their pains, their sorrows.
* They also respect their own right to freedom, should that man or woman choose to exercise that right.
* They extend themselves beyond their own wants and needs to encourage their partners to enjoy rich,
full lives for themselves, risking the possibility that they won't be active participants in their lives in the future.
* They want these individuals to be genuinely happy as they live their lives - with or without us
- because they are capable of truly loving them that much.
~Unknown Source
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Falling in genuine love is totally different:
When we "fall in love," we are experiencing the magnetism of attraction at its most powerful level.
We literally feel the urge to mate and be coupled with that individual.
This magnetism is an initial stage of loving,
but it is far from reaching its final and most meaningful stage.
Falling in love only draws us toward an individual with whom we may develop a relationship in the future,
but the future depth and substance of that relationship won't have a thing to do with sexual attraction
experienced in the here and now.
When we fall in love we feel entranced, dazzled, and downright captivated with that individual who attracts us so intensely.
We feel drawn, consciously or not, to selfishly gratify a deep, inner longing for physical unity with another
who characterizes an ideal mating partner for us at that particular time.
There's no denying our basic nature to be sexual beings, no matter how technologically advanced civilization may have become.
Human beings are drawn to one another essentially to mate, propagate, and, in general, proliferate the species.
It's basic human nature, after all.
Loving, on the other hand, is an entirely unselfish act in emotionally extending ourselves beyond our own wants and needs.
Through such loving, we recognize that our loved one is a wholly separate person who is traveling his or her own individual path
in life without our needing or requiring them to be there for us at any given moment.
When we say, "I can't live without this person in my life,"
we aren't expressing love but instead, extreme dependency on another individual.
We are obsessed and parasitic in the way we feel about that individual.
We have focused the essence of our lives on the lives of our partners and are basically feeding off them as they pursue
their own happiness in life.
We virtually have no identity for ourselves when we live this way.
We are so focused on that partner and what he or she does in an attempt to be happy that we have no idea what it means to
make ourselves happy.
We are, plainly speaking, living our lives through the lives of others, which is a very unhealthy way to live.
Genuine love will never grow from such an unhealthy way of life, only greater dependency and deeper unhappiness is fostered
in the end.
If you worry that you might be obsessing rather than truly loving your partner, ask yourself these questions:
Are you afraid to allow the one you love the space and freedom in which to pursue his or her own goals and dreams to grow
and develop as a wholly separate individual?
Do you respect the privacy of the one you love or do you feel so insecure about the relationship you share
that you feel driven to be a participant in every facet of their lives?
Are you overly suspicious of your partner's relationships with others - family members, coworkers, and friends –
and scheme to destroy these relationships so he or she will ultimately "belong" only to you?
Does the thought of your partner leaving you fill you with such fear that you think, "I can't ever let that happen"?
I urge those who are yearning to better understand the difference between genuine love and obsession
to pick up a copy of "The Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck, MD.
This book directly parallels the teachings of Personal Prophesy in terms of what constitutes truly healthy, loving
relationships.
- adapted from: Love vs. Obsession: Are You Loving Too Much? ~Deborah Leigh Ketner
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When we "fall in love," we are experiencing the magnetism of attraction at its most powerful level.
We literally feel the urge to mate and be coupled with that individual.
This magnetism is an initial stage of loving,
but it is far from reaching its final and most meaningful stage.
Falling in love only draws us toward an individual with whom we may develop a relationship in the future,
but the future depth and substance of that relationship won't have a thing to do with sexual attraction
experienced in the here and now.
When we fall in love we feel entranced, dazzled, and downright captivated with that individual who attracts us so intensely.
We feel drawn, consciously or not, to selfishly gratify a deep, inner longing for physical unity with another
who characterizes an ideal mating partner for us at that particular time.
There's no denying our basic nature to be sexual beings, no matter how technologically advanced civilization may have become.
Human beings are drawn to one another essentially to mate, propagate, and, in general, proliferate the species.
It's basic human nature, after all.
Loving, on the other hand, is an entirely unselfish act in emotionally extending ourselves beyond our own wants and needs.
Through such loving, we recognize that our loved one is a wholly separate person who is traveling his or her own individual path
in life without our needing or requiring them to be there for us at any given moment.
When we say, "I can't live without this person in my life,"
we aren't expressing love but instead, extreme dependency on another individual.
We are obsessed and parasitic in the way we feel about that individual.
We have focused the essence of our lives on the lives of our partners and are basically feeding off them as they pursue
their own happiness in life.
We virtually have no identity for ourselves when we live this way.
We are so focused on that partner and what he or she does in an attempt to be happy that we have no idea what it means to
make ourselves happy.
We are, plainly speaking, living our lives through the lives of others, which is a very unhealthy way to live.
Genuine love will never grow from such an unhealthy way of life, only greater dependency and deeper unhappiness is fostered
in the end.
If you worry that you might be obsessing rather than truly loving your partner, ask yourself these questions:
Are you afraid to allow the one you love the space and freedom in which to pursue his or her own goals and dreams to grow
and develop as a wholly separate individual?
Do you respect the privacy of the one you love or do you feel so insecure about the relationship you share
that you feel driven to be a participant in every facet of their lives?
Are you overly suspicious of your partner's relationships with others - family members, coworkers, and friends –
and scheme to destroy these relationships so he or she will ultimately "belong" only to you?
Does the thought of your partner leaving you fill you with such fear that you think, "I can't ever let that happen"?
I urge those who are yearning to better understand the difference between genuine love and obsession
to pick up a copy of "The Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck, MD.
This book directly parallels the teachings of Personal Prophesy in terms of what constitutes truly healthy, loving
relationships.
- adapted from: Love vs. Obsession: Are You Loving Too Much? ~Deborah Leigh Ketner
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Healthy / Unhealthy Love
A healthy love is when my heart is filled with happiness, joy, respect, and just pure love-in actions as well as feelings:
Unhealthy love is filled with stress, pain, frustration, doubt, and heartbreak and lack of trust.
An unhealthy love is not happy - it's miserable.
A healthy love is the sharing of two people, two souls, connecting together.
An unhealthy love is one that has one being a Giver all the time, while the other is always the Taker - the relationship
is not equal in feeling, actions, etc.
A healthy one is where two people are connected in healthy ways - supporting each other, loving each other in feelings
and actions, sharing a life together, each giving to the relationship, and bringing out each other's best!
A healthy love is one where each person grows and matures and yet knows they are accepted for who they are.
Each is given acceptance and has a SO that wants what is best for them, and uplifting each other as well.
In a unhealthy love there is one who dominates the relationship, condemns the other and brings them down,
takes power over the other, manipulates, abuses, takes advantage, takes for granted, etc.
To sum this up - a healthy love is positives.
An unhealthy love is negatives.
Really loving another person takes time,
it takes perseverance
and it can’t be based on physical attraction alone.
Until you know somebody well you can’t really be in love.
A healthy love is when my heart is filled with happiness, joy, respect, and just pure love-in actions as well as feelings:
Unhealthy love is filled with stress, pain, frustration, doubt, and heartbreak and lack of trust.
An unhealthy love is not happy - it's miserable.
A healthy love is the sharing of two people, two souls, connecting together.
An unhealthy love is one that has one being a Giver all the time, while the other is always the Taker - the relationship
is not equal in feeling, actions, etc.
A healthy one is where two people are connected in healthy ways - supporting each other, loving each other in feelings
and actions, sharing a life together, each giving to the relationship, and bringing out each other's best!
A healthy love is one where each person grows and matures and yet knows they are accepted for who they are.
Each is given acceptance and has a SO that wants what is best for them, and uplifting each other as well.
In a unhealthy love there is one who dominates the relationship, condemns the other and brings them down,
takes power over the other, manipulates, abuses, takes advantage, takes for granted, etc.
To sum this up - a healthy love is positives.
An unhealthy love is negatives.
Really loving another person takes time,
it takes perseverance
and it can’t be based on physical attraction alone.
Until you know somebody well you can’t really be in love.
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How do you recognize an obsession?
There are signs.
If all of your time and effort goes in to satisfying the needs of another or in chasing after another person
then you are at risk of becoming obsessed.
If one person is always trying to please the other person or if the relationship is without consideration and
compromise then it could be based on obsessive feelings rather than real love.
Real love is nurturing and helps people grow
but obsession is debilitating and takes away from the psyche of the person caught up in it.
If you feel like you have lost yourself,
if you are always striving to please your partner without them doing the same for you, and if you find yourself
making all your decisions in your life based on the feelings and needs of the other person you are obsessed and
not in a real love relationship.
Love can’t be forced at will,
it must be found,
and that can only happen for real
when our hearts and minds are free.
-Adapted from Jessica Stevenson
There are signs.
If all of your time and effort goes in to satisfying the needs of another or in chasing after another person
then you are at risk of becoming obsessed.
If one person is always trying to please the other person or if the relationship is without consideration and
compromise then it could be based on obsessive feelings rather than real love.
Real love is nurturing and helps people grow
but obsession is debilitating and takes away from the psyche of the person caught up in it.
If you feel like you have lost yourself,
if you are always striving to please your partner without them doing the same for you, and if you find yourself
making all your decisions in your life based on the feelings and needs of the other person you are obsessed and
not in a real love relationship.
Love can’t be forced at will,
it must be found,
and that can only happen for real
when our hearts and minds are free.
-Adapted from Jessica Stevenson
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