Family, Domestic, Child, Race, Gender & Elder Abuse/Violence

Abuse and Violence take many forms - it is not always "only" physical.

Some of the forms of violence and abuse are so "common" that they appear to be "normal" and which people take to be a "part of life". These
include: Domestic, Family, Relationship, Child, Teen, Dating, Gender, Elder & Racial violence and abuse.

Abuse & Violence are widespread, pervasive and often subtle. In fact, many people are on the receiving end of abuse and violence without being
aware of it - that's how subtle and common it has become: it has become part of what many people have come to regard as "normal".

But violence is violence, and abuse is abuse - and the people at the receiving end are victims. Below you will find a series of graphics to illustrate the
different kinds of abuse and violence: included are "equality & nurture" graphics to show you the difference.

If you discovered this page by "accident" - please consider that there is a reason for everything - that this is just what you needed. In order to
familiarize yourself with just how many things actually make-up violence or abuse, I have provided the graphics & information below.

Abuse & Violence: when people think of the effects of abuse and violence, it is the physical devastation that usually comes to mind first. Things
such as bodily harm; facial and other disfigurement; lost, or ruined eyesight and hearing; miscarriages; and in the extreme, death. These horrifying
consequences are terribly real for thousands. This phenomenon and the cycle it operates under must be broken or stopped.

But there are other grave consequences as well. These are the debilitating mental, psychic and emotional devastation that occurs. Fear and shame are
among the minor ones. In more severe circumstances of repeatedly being beaten, or through rape and/or incest the effects not only destroy
self-worth, self-confidence, they can result in a total loss of identity (knowing who you are). This is called Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), or
Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD). Associated disorders are: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Dissociative Disorder.

Victims (children) growing up in dysfunctional families/relationships where violence and abuse occur develop coping, or survival strategies that
result in "roles": natural reactions to severe dysfunction. The most severe victim being "The Lost Child".

Children (kids) learn from their parents (and the environment the parenting takes place in - the home)! The things children see, hear, watch, observe
and experience their parents doing - are the things that "tell" the children "how life is"; what's okay; what's acceptable, etc. After all, that's where we
learned (obtained) our basic notions about life - and those go (went) very deep!

Thus, the dysfunctional pattern is usually repeated by adult children of dysfunctional (alcoholic) families: a cycle - unless they become survivors,
children from these families/relationships will tend to adopt their parents' patterns: a Culture of Dysfunction.

Children who have grown-up in dysfunctional families share these traits: fear, shame and anger/rage.

Each of us is a product of our past: from childhood on, along with all the subsequent things we experienced, including the recent past. The
dysfunctional family is maladaptive and deviant: sick. It is an extreme on the scale of possible realities - it is time to break your cycle now. Get a life
- empower yourself and develop your human potential.

Violence and abuse do massive mental and emotional damage, as well as physical. In really bad cases, it brutalizes people (they lose their
humanity, and cower in fear): at best they grow up dysfunctional and display ineffective compensating roles, and/or become co-dependent.

After studying this page - if there are things that apply to you, help is available here. Please feel free to call or write for information - without
obligation. For recovery/healing steps, see: C ounselling. Knowing what violence/abuse are and what causes it still does not help turn it round: help
is available.

Abuse severely impacts children's development - CLICK to see how.

Below are some Graphics: The Power & Control, Equality, Child, Teen Race etc Violence etc "wheels".
To enlarge them, click on them, then click on "Back", "previous" or "return" to come back to this page.

Child nurture /
nurturence

What Equality
looks like

Teen
Equality

Teen Abuse & Violence
Power and Control

The Victim Cycle of
Violence & Abuse

Child
Abuse

To see what CAN be, Click
image below

equalityRace Violence & Abuse
Power and Control

Victim Continued Cycle of
Violence & Abuse
Power and Control

For Transition House services in
Yarmouth (NS) click HERE (they
can also direct you to other
Transition Houses & Services)

Now that you know what violence and abuse also are: YOU can help stop the cycle.

If you don't know how - help in the form of Counselling is available here: online & in-person
Write, email or call - with no obligation - - see Contact Info.

If you are a victim, the same help is available to you.

If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.

Perhaps you need something to help you make it through the day.

Why not see the Inspirational Page to find words that will help you?

I am against
violence to
women, 365 days
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Family, Domestic, Child, Race, Gender & Elder Abuse/Violence

including Teen, Dating & Other Abuse & Violence: an introduction

Where the formation of the "Wounded Child Within" and "Inner Child" begins

The Cycle of Domestic
Violence & Abuse

Also see:
Montreal
Massacre

Take a Stand against a "social
sickness" - Child Pornography.

Light a Candle to stop Child
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Healing & Empowerment: Counselling - Life
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When life hurts - there is immediate
help for long term hope

Dawn Cove Abbey Empowerment Outreach - New Beginning Online
Information Resources, and other supports for Adult Children of Alcoholic/Dysfunctional Families
LIFE COUNSELING / COACHING / COUNSELLING and CONSULTING: HEALING YOUR WOUNDED INNER LOST CHILD

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