
Abuse and Violence take many forms - it is not always "only" physical.
Some of the forms of violence and abuse are so "common" that they appear to be "normal" and which people take to be a "part of life". These
include: Domestic, Family, Relationship, Child, Teen, Dating, Gender, Elder & Racial violence and abuse.
Abuse & Violence are widespread, pervasive and often subtle. In fact, many people are on the receiving end of abuse and violence without being
aware of it - that's how subtle and common it has become: it has become part of what many people have come to regard as "normal".
But violence is violence, and abuse is abuse - and the people at the receiving end are victims. Below you will find a series of graphics to illustrate the
different kinds of abuse and violence: included are "equality & nurture" graphics to show you the difference.
If you discovered this page by "accident" - please consider that there is a reason for everything - that this is just what you needed. In order to
familiarize yourself with just how many things actually make-up violence or abuse, I have provided the graphics & information below.
Abuse & Violence: when people think of the effects of abuse and violence, it is the physical devastation that usually comes to mind first. Things
such as bodily harm; facial and other disfigurement; lost, or ruined eyesight and hearing; miscarriages; and in the extreme, death. These horrifying
consequences are terribly real for thousands. This phenomenon and the cycle it operates under must be broken or stopped.
But there are other grave consequences as well. These are the debilitating mental, psychic and emotional devastation that occurs. Fear and shame are
among the minor ones. In more severe circumstances of repeatedly being beaten, or through rape and/or incest the effects not only destroy
self-worth, self-confidence, they can result in a total loss of identity (knowing who you are). This is called Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), or
Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD). Associated disorders are: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Dissociative Disorder.
Victims (children) growing up in dysfunctional families/relationships where violence and abuse occur develop coping, or survival strategies that
result in "roles": natural reactions to severe dysfunction. The most severe victim being "The Lost Child".
Children (kids) learn from their parents (and the environment the parenting takes place in - the home)! The things children see, hear, watch, observe
and experience their parents doing - are the things that "tell" the children "how life is"; what's okay; what's acceptable, etc. After all, that's where we
learned (obtained) our basic notions about life - and those go (went) very deep!
Thus, the dysfunctional pattern is usually repeated by adult children of dysfunctional (alcoholic) families: a cycle - unless they become survivors,
children from these families/relationships will tend to adopt their parents' patterns: a Culture of Dysfunction.
Children who have grown-up in dysfunctional families share these traits: fear, shame and anger/rage.
Each of us is a product of our past: from childhood on, along with all the subsequent things we experienced, including the recent past. The
dysfunctional family is maladaptive and deviant: sick. It is an extreme on the scale of possible realities - it is time to break your cycle now. Get a life
- empower yourself and develop your human potential.
Violence and abuse do massive mental and emotional damage, as well as physical. In really bad cases, it brutalizes people (they lose their
humanity, and cower in fear): at best they grow up dysfunctional and display ineffective compensating roles, and/or become co-dependent.
After studying this page - if there are things that apply to you, help is available here. Please feel free to call or write for information - without
obligation. For recovery/healing steps, see: Counselling. Knowing what violence/abuse are and what causes it still does not help turn it round: help
is available.
Abuse severely impacts children's development - CLICK to see how.
Below are some Graphics: The Power & Control, Equality, Child, Teen Race etc Violence etc "wheels".
To enlarge them, click on them, then click on "Back", "previous" or "return" to come back to this page.
Child nurture / nurturence
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Teen Abuse & Violence Power and Control
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The Victim Cycle of Violence & Abuse
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To see what CAN be, Click image below
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equalityRace Violence & Abuse Power and Control
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Victim Continued Cycle of Violence & Abuse Power and Control
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For Transition House services in Yarmouth (NS) click HERE (they can also direct you to other Transition Houses & Services)
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Now that you know what violence and abuse also are: YOU can help stop the cycle.
If you don't know how - help in the form of Counselling is available here: online & in-person Write, email or call - with no obligation - - see Contact Info.
If you are a victim, the same help is available to you.
If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.
Perhaps you need something to help you make it through the day.
Why not see the Inspirational Page to find words that will help you?
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I am against violence to women, 365 days a year
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Family, Domestic, Child, Race, Gender & Elder Abuse/Violence
including Teen, Dating & Other Abuse & Violence: an introduction
Where the formation of the "Wounded Child Within" and "Inner Child" begins
The Cycle of Domestic Violence & Abuse
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Take a Stand against a "social sickness" - Child Pornography.
Light a Candle to stop Child Pornography, just click below on the word "stop", and it will take you directly to the website prepared for it.
STOP
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Healing & Empowerment: Counselling - Life
Coaching, Seminars, Workshops & Retreats
When life hurts - there is immediate help for long term hope
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Dawn Cove Abbey Empowerment Outreach - New Beginning Online Information Resources, and other supports for Adult Children of Alcoholic/Dysfunctional Families LIFE COUNSELING / COACHING / COUNSELLING and CONSULTING: HEALING YOUR WOUNDED INNER LOST CHILD
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Only the Wounded Heal; Only the Separated Reconcile
The Conditioning to Dysfunction starts early in life. . .
Some kids don’t have a chance...........
SORRY MOMMY & DADDY. I didn't mean to spill my milk at dinner last night.
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SORRY MOMMY & DADDY. I didn't mean to play with my dolls that long.
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SORRY MOMMY & DADDY. I didn't mean to be a mistake..
why can't I eat?
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SORRY MOMMY & DADDY. I didn't mean to pee in my pants yesterday.
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SORRY MOMMY & DADDY.
I love you! Why don't you love me back? Why is everything I do wrong?
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SORRY MOMMY & DADDY. I didn't mean to cry when my bath water was too hot.
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SORRY MOMMY & DADDY. I didn't mean to gag and cry over that
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1,504,000 children get abused by their guardians. It's not right. They shouldn't have to suffer.
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You-Tube presentation Click HERE
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