Some of the forms of violence and abuse in our communities and culture are so common
that they appear to be "normal" and which people take to be a "part of life".
They are not "normal" parts of healthy, functional lives.
They are a blight of epidemic proportions, and cause long-lasting psychic devastation in lives.
They are the results (consequences)
of the psychosis called "alcoholic" or "dysfunctional families".
The various forms of abuse and violence include: Domestic, Family, Relationship, Child, Bullying, Teen &
Other Dating, Gender, Elder & Racial violence and abuse. It also includes Rape and Incest, Child
Trafficking, Child Pornography, and "White Slavery" (Human Trafficking).
that they appear to be "normal" and which people take to be a "part of life".
They are not "normal" parts of healthy, functional lives.
They are a blight of epidemic proportions, and cause long-lasting psychic devastation in lives.
They are the results (consequences)
of the psychosis called "alcoholic" or "dysfunctional families".
The various forms of abuse and violence include: Domestic, Family, Relationship, Child, Bullying, Teen &
Other Dating, Gender, Elder & Racial violence and abuse. It also includes Rape and Incest, Child
Trafficking, Child Pornography, and "White Slavery" (Human Trafficking).
Victims (children) growing up in dysfunctional
families/relationships where violence and abuse occur,
They develop coping, or survival strategies that result in "roles": natural reactions to severe dysfunction.
The most severe victim is the "The Lost Child".
families/relationships where violence and abuse occur,
They develop coping, or survival strategies that result in "roles": natural reactions to severe dysfunction.
The most severe victim is the "The Lost Child".
Children (kids) learn from their parents (and the environment the parenting takes place in - the home)!
The things children see, hear, watch, observe and experience their parents doing - are the things that
"tell" the children "how life is"; what's okay; what's acceptable, etc. After all, that's where we
learned (obtained) our basic notions about life - and those go (went) very deep!
Thus, the dysfunctional pattern is usually repeated by adult children of dysfunctional (alcoholic)
families: a cycle - unless they become survivors, children from these families/relationships will tend to
adopt their parents' patterns: a Culture of Dysfunction.
Children who have grown-up in dysfunctional families share these traits: fear, shame and anger/rage.
Each of us is a product of our past: from childhood on, along with all the subsequent things we
experienced, including the recent past. The dysfunctional family is maladaptive and deviant: sick. It is
an extreme on the scale of possible realities - it is time to break your cycle now. Get a life - empower
yourself and develop your human potential.
The things children see, hear, watch, observe and experience their parents doing - are the things that
"tell" the children "how life is"; what's okay; what's acceptable, etc. After all, that's where we
learned (obtained) our basic notions about life - and those go (went) very deep!
Thus, the dysfunctional pattern is usually repeated by adult children of dysfunctional (alcoholic)
families: a cycle - unless they become survivors, children from these families/relationships will tend to
adopt their parents' patterns: a Culture of Dysfunction.
Children who have grown-up in dysfunctional families share these traits: fear, shame and anger/rage.
Each of us is a product of our past: from childhood on, along with all the subsequent things we
experienced, including the recent past. The dysfunctional family is maladaptive and deviant: sick. It is
an extreme on the scale of possible realities - it is time to break your cycle now. Get a life - empower
yourself and develop your human potential.
Violence and abuse do massive mental and emotional
damage, as well as physical.
In really bad cases, it brutalizes people (they lose
their humanity, and cower in fear): at best they grow
up dysfunctional and display ineffective compensating
roles, and/or become co-dependent.
After studying this page - if there are things that
apply to you, help is available here. Please feel free to
call or write for information - without obligation. For
recovery/healing steps, see: Counselling. Knowing what
violence/abuse are and what causes it still does not
help turn it round: help is available.
Abuse severely impacts children's development
The "Kidsource" Website is an excellent resource for
that - CLICK to discover how violence affects kids.
damage, as well as physical.
In really bad cases, it brutalizes people (they lose
their humanity, and cower in fear): at best they grow
up dysfunctional and display ineffective compensating
roles, and/or become co-dependent.
After studying this page - if there are things that
apply to you, help is available here. Please feel free to
call or write for information - without obligation. For
recovery/healing steps, see: Counselling. Knowing what
violence/abuse are and what causes it still does not
help turn it round: help is available.
Abuse severely impacts children's development
The "Kidsource" Website is an excellent resource for
that - CLICK to discover how violence affects kids.
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Abuse & Violence: when people think of the effects of abuse and violence, it is the physical
devastation that usually comes to mind first.
Things such as bodily harm; facial and other Abuse & Violence: disfigurement; lost, or ruined eyesight
and hearing; miscarriages; and in the extreme, death. These horrifying consequences are terribly real
for thousands. This phenomenon and the cycle it operates under must be broken or stopped.
But there are other grave consequences as well. These are the debilitating mental, psychic
and emotional devastation that occur.
Fear and shame are among the minor ones. In more severe circumstances of repeatedly being beaten,
or through rape and/or incest the effects not only destroy self-worth, self-confidence, they can result
in a total loss of identity (knowing who you are): This is called Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), or
Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD).
Associated disorders are: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Dissociative Disorder.
devastation that usually comes to mind first.
Things such as bodily harm; facial and other Abuse & Violence: disfigurement; lost, or ruined eyesight
and hearing; miscarriages; and in the extreme, death. These horrifying consequences are terribly real
for thousands. This phenomenon and the cycle it operates under must be broken or stopped.
But there are other grave consequences as well. These are the debilitating mental, psychic
and emotional devastation that occur.
Fear and shame are among the minor ones. In more severe circumstances of repeatedly being beaten,
or through rape and/or incest the effects not only destroy self-worth, self-confidence, they can result
in a total loss of identity (knowing who you are): This is called Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), or
Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD).
Associated disorders are: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Dissociative Disorder.
Abuse & Violence are widespread, pervasive and
often subtle. violence without being aware of it -
that's how subtle and common it has become: it has
become part of what many people have come to regard
as "normal".
But violence is violence, and abuse is abuse - and
the people at the receiving end are victims. Below you
will find a series of graphics to illustrate the
different kinds of abuse and violence: included are
"equality & nurture" graphics to show you the
difference.
If you discovered this page by "accident" - please
consider that there is a reason for everything - that
this is just what you needed. In order to familiarize
yourself with just how many things actually make-up
violence or abuse, I have provided the graphics &
information below.
often subtle. violence without being aware of it -
that's how subtle and common it has become: it has
become part of what many people have come to regard
as "normal".
But violence is violence, and abuse is abuse - and
the people at the receiving end are victims. Below you
will find a series of graphics to illustrate the
different kinds of abuse and violence: included are
"equality & nurture" graphics to show you the
difference.
If you discovered this page by "accident" - please
consider that there is a reason for everything - that
this is just what you needed. In order to familiarize
yourself with just how many things actually make-up
violence or abuse, I have provided the graphics &
information below.
Child, Domestic and Family Abuse and Violence aren't "only"
physical: the major impact is emotional and mental - even though the
physical is bad enough (even leading to death in many cases).
physical: the major impact is emotional and mental - even though the
physical is bad enough (even leading to death in many cases).
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Children are not commodities.
Child trafficking is child abuse
Children are bought and sold around the world, trafficked into,
within and out of many countries, for a multitude of reasons. It is a
complex and often hidden crime that is largely unseen by broader
society. Whether for sexual abuse, domestic servitude, benefit
fraud or forced labour, child trafficking is not about migration or
immigration.
A child can find themselves a victim of trafficking whatever their
nationality or immigration status. This exploitation of children can
and does happen anywhere.
Why are children trafficked?
Children and young people are trafficked into, within and out their
countries for many different types of exploitation.
This includes, but is not limited to:
•sexual exploitation
•labour exploitation – such as in cooking
and cleaning in restaurants
•domestic servitude
•enforced criminal activity – such as street crime,
fraud or cannabis cultivation
•illegal adoption
•underage, servile or forced marriage
•benefit fraud
Although many people are being trafficked, children are the biggest
victims of trafficking: forced into slavery, recruited as child
soldiers or sold into prostitution.
Girls and boys as young as six are taken from desperately poor
homes and placed as domestic workers with strangers in the city.
In return, they are promised an education. In reality, they are often
beaten, fed on leftovers, forced to work long hours and forbidden
to go to school.
Other children are sent instead to work in quarries or plantations,
in West African states.
Some are even trafficked for ritual purposes and end up dead.
However it manifests itself, child trafficking is child abuse.
It must stop – now.
Child trafficking is child abuse
Children are bought and sold around the world, trafficked into,
within and out of many countries, for a multitude of reasons. It is a
complex and often hidden crime that is largely unseen by broader
society. Whether for sexual abuse, domestic servitude, benefit
fraud or forced labour, child trafficking is not about migration or
immigration.
A child can find themselves a victim of trafficking whatever their
nationality or immigration status. This exploitation of children can
and does happen anywhere.
Why are children trafficked?
Children and young people are trafficked into, within and out their
countries for many different types of exploitation.
This includes, but is not limited to:
•sexual exploitation
•labour exploitation – such as in cooking
and cleaning in restaurants
•domestic servitude
•enforced criminal activity – such as street crime,
fraud or cannabis cultivation
•illegal adoption
•underage, servile or forced marriage
•benefit fraud
Although many people are being trafficked, children are the biggest
victims of trafficking: forced into slavery, recruited as child
soldiers or sold into prostitution.
Girls and boys as young as six are taken from desperately poor
homes and placed as domestic workers with strangers in the city.
In return, they are promised an education. In reality, they are often
beaten, fed on leftovers, forced to work long hours and forbidden
to go to school.
Other children are sent instead to work in quarries or plantations,
in West African states.
Some are even trafficked for ritual purposes and end up dead.
However it manifests itself, child trafficking is child abuse.
It must stop – now.
Elder Abuse:
This is a silent Epidemic of abuse which occurs
because too many cases go unreported.
Elder abuse involves physical and/or emotional
mistreatment which degrades, coerces,
manipulates or exploits an elderly person and/or
their resources. It includes: physical, emotional,
financial and neglect issues.
This is a silent Epidemic of abuse which occurs
because too many cases go unreported.
Elder abuse involves physical and/or emotional
mistreatment which degrades, coerces,
manipulates or exploits an elderly person and/or
their resources. It includes: physical, emotional,
financial and neglect issues.
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Abuse is a vast topic, and it's consequences and
ramifications are immense
There are many other forms of abuse
which aren't detailed here yet -
These will be added as they become available, one recent
addition, for example, is the Invisible Violence page.
ramifications are immense
There are many other forms of abuse
which aren't detailed here yet -
These will be added as they become available, one recent
addition, for example, is the Invisible Violence page.
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Sometimes a picture says a thousand words –
sometimes it can’t convey the entire message.
On this page you will find both pictures – and words
about a serious reality that much of the world around
is in denial about.
The pictures pull no punches - they are graphic - this is to
break through the denial some people experience about this
topic - denial leads to enabling, and enabling perpetuates it all.
The stories of the consequences of what these
pictures show are so huge, so vital, and so devastating,
that one page cannot convey it all.
The site is dedicated to providing knowledge and information to
both stop this, and how to heal from it if you are a victim.
You will find links to other pages that provide more
information, profiles and details (See right hand side of this
page - near the top - for Navigation Menus to them) > >
sometimes it can’t convey the entire message.
On this page you will find both pictures – and words
about a serious reality that much of the world around
is in denial about.
The pictures pull no punches - they are graphic - this is to
break through the denial some people experience about this
topic - denial leads to enabling, and enabling perpetuates it all.
The stories of the consequences of what these
pictures show are so huge, so vital, and so devastating,
that one page cannot convey it all.
The site is dedicated to providing knowledge and information to
both stop this, and how to heal from it if you are a victim.
You will find links to other pages that provide more
information, profiles and details (See right hand side of this
page - near the top - for Navigation Menus to them) > >
Do you grapple with low self confidence?
Or worse still, do you feel as if you are going crazy
and sometimes toy with suicidal ideas?
If you answer in yes for either of these questions
then re-think the circumstances that have triggered
those feelings.
Your partner might have indulged in constant criticism
or spoken something that has hurt deeply. Or maybe
it started early in your childhood.
Or your spouse might have closely monitored your
movements and has isolated you, socially and
financially.
Emotional abuse is so vast and varied that it is
impossible to compile a list. Abusers indulge in such
acts in an effort to control.
So, in short, if your spouse indulges in dominating acts
that depress you, then, it is emotional abuse. If you
are trapped in such an abusive relationship, take all
measures to protect yourself.
Emotional abuse is cruelty.
Some acts of emotional abuse are also illegal.
It causes more harm than physical violence.
Or worse still, do you feel as if you are going crazy
and sometimes toy with suicidal ideas?
If you answer in yes for either of these questions
then re-think the circumstances that have triggered
those feelings.
Your partner might have indulged in constant criticism
or spoken something that has hurt deeply. Or maybe
it started early in your childhood.
Or your spouse might have closely monitored your
movements and has isolated you, socially and
financially.
Emotional abuse is so vast and varied that it is
impossible to compile a list. Abusers indulge in such
acts in an effort to control.
So, in short, if your spouse indulges in dominating acts
that depress you, then, it is emotional abuse. If you
are trapped in such an abusive relationship, take all
measures to protect yourself.
Emotional abuse is cruelty.
Some acts of emotional abuse are also illegal.
It causes more harm than physical violence.
Elder Abuse
Rape statistics
Human Trafficking (White Slavery):
This is primarily sexual slavery.
There is a world-wide trade of
this form of violence going on. Young
girls and women are enticed or simply
abducted and transported to some
other place to be put into “service”.
Basically, it is forced prostitution.
This is primarily sexual slavery.
There is a world-wide trade of
this form of violence going on. Young
girls and women are enticed or simply
abducted and transported to some
other place to be put into “service”.
Basically, it is forced prostitution.
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In white slavery, ritual slavery is sometimes associated with traditional
religious practices, and slavery for primarily non-sexual purposes where
sex is common.
In general, the nature of slavery means that the slave is de facto
available for sex, and ordinary social conventions and legal protections
that would otherwise constrain an owner's actions are not effective.
In general, the nature of slavery means that the slave is de facto
available for sex, and ordinary social conventions and legal protections
that would otherwise constrain an owner's actions are not effective.
religious practices, and slavery for primarily non-sexual purposes where
sex is common.
In general, the nature of slavery means that the slave is de facto
available for sex, and ordinary social conventions and legal protections
that would otherwise constrain an owner's actions are not effective.
In general, the nature of slavery means that the slave is de facto
available for sex, and ordinary social conventions and legal protections
that would otherwise constrain an owner's actions are not effective.
| Bullying |
Domestic Violence and
Child Abuse
How to counter it?
1. Be the example
Children mimic what they see and
hear.
They learn how to become a man
or woman based on your example.
Be an example to other adults, too
2. Educate
3. Stand up against it
Child Abuse
How to counter it?
1. Be the example
Children mimic what they see and
hear.
They learn how to become a man
or woman based on your example.
Be an example to other adults, too
2. Educate
3. Stand up against it
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| Cycle of Bullying Wheel |
| No Bullying Wheel |
Children's Reaction
to Violence & Abuse
to Violence & Abuse
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| ElderAbuse |
| Child, Domestic and Family Abuse and Violence |
Elder Abuse
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awakening and healing to you.
healing and empowerment through personal life coaching/counselling, as well
as the many information files that exist on this website - the information is
free and available to all.
I sincerely hope that you take the Less Travelled Road and that it brings
awakening and healing to you.
Physical abuse is certainly one.
Verbal abuse is another,
Older people are afraid to speak up because they know that if they speak up
they could end up in a nursing home or with a guardian taking over their lives,
I would be petrified also to speak up considering what I've seen happen to
the ones that do speak up . . .
worst type of abuse is intolerable.
Elders often face abuse at home by an abusive relative or caregiver or face
guardian abuse by losing their last vestige of independence where you don't
even get to choose where you want to live or whom you want to take care of
you and your money is not considered your money any longer and you lose the
right to choose.
1 in 20 elders are victims of violence and abuse.
Family members cause more than half of all reported abuse in later life.
Shame, dependence on the abuser, fear of retribution, and isolation from the
community are significant obstacles that discourage elders from reporting
these crimes.
TYPES OF Elder ABUSE
- physical
- emotional
- financial
- sexual
- exploitation
- neglect
- abandonment
Verbal abuse is another,
Older people are afraid to speak up because they know that if they speak up
they could end up in a nursing home or with a guardian taking over their lives,
I would be petrified also to speak up considering what I've seen happen to
the ones that do speak up . . .
worst type of abuse is intolerable.
Elders often face abuse at home by an abusive relative or caregiver or face
guardian abuse by losing their last vestige of independence where you don't
even get to choose where you want to live or whom you want to take care of
you and your money is not considered your money any longer and you lose the
right to choose.
1 in 20 elders are victims of violence and abuse.
Family members cause more than half of all reported abuse in later life.
Shame, dependence on the abuser, fear of retribution, and isolation from the
community are significant obstacles that discourage elders from reporting
these crimes.
TYPES OF Elder ABUSE
- physical
- emotional
- financial
- sexual
- exploitation
- neglect
- abandonment
The illustrations on this page
are very graphic depictions.
are very graphic depictions.
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NOTE: This page, like most pages on the site, describes and explains behaviours and circumstances. it
can bring a sense of relief. Understanding is only the first step - it is not the recovery process
itself!
The information on this page describes 'extremes' of behaviour. Very few people ever display all of
them - or experience all of them.
The good news is that although it seems difficult, anyone can dig down deep past set behaviours and
change their core responses. If you are ready to make the change / transition to begin your healing
journey, we can help. Please call, write or email without obligation (and strictly confidential)
To contact us, please see Contact-Us
can bring a sense of relief. Understanding is only the first step - it is not the recovery process
itself!
The information on this page describes 'extremes' of behaviour. Very few people ever display all of
them - or experience all of them.
The good news is that although it seems difficult, anyone can dig down deep past set behaviours and
change their core responses. If you are ready to make the change / transition to begin your healing
journey, we can help. Please call, write or email without obligation (and strictly confidential)
To contact us, please see Contact-Us
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So part of any healing journey is to reconnect with that child inside: the inner child. And
although healing occurs in all those who actively engage in that journey - there will always be
remnants and memories.
Dysfunction too often is generational: it is passed on from one generation to another. The only
way to change it is to break that cycle. The best way to do so is to begin one's own recovery
and healing, and then focus on children in one's life.
This cannot be emphasized too much: I suggest you read Prayer For The Children
although healing occurs in all those who actively engage in that journey - there will always be
remnants and memories.
Dysfunction too often is generational: it is passed on from one generation to another. The only
way to change it is to break that cycle. The best way to do so is to begin one's own recovery
and healing, and then focus on children in one's life.
This cannot be emphasized too much: I suggest you read Prayer For The Children
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