GRIEF and GRIEVING Follow Definite Stages: it is a process.
There are various sources of Grief. Whether your bereavement is due to a
death of a beloved person, a pet, a friend, or because of divorce or separation,
or moving away from a place, the grieving process is basically the same.
If you're grieving, you might be having trouble concentrating, sleeping, eating,
or feeling interested in the things you usually enjoy. You might be trying to act
like you feel OK (even if you don't).
You may wonder if you will ever get over losing someone who means so much to
you. Grief can, and often does, cause some people to feel guilty. These feelings
and reactions are a normal part of the grieving process.
Grief is a natural reaction to the loss of someone important to you: it is the
emotion people feel when they experience a loss. Grief is also the name for the
healing process that a person goes through after someone close has died.
It is a very similar process for those experiencing a separation or divorce.
Although everyone experiences grief when they lose someone, grieving affects
people in different ways. How it affects you partly depends on your situation
and relationship with the person who died.
There are various sources of Grief. Whether your bereavement is due to a
death of a beloved person, a pet, a friend, or because of divorce or separation,
or moving away from a place, the grieving process is basically the same.
If you're grieving, you might be having trouble concentrating, sleeping, eating,
or feeling interested in the things you usually enjoy. You might be trying to act
like you feel OK (even if you don't).
You may wonder if you will ever get over losing someone who means so much to
you. Grief can, and often does, cause some people to feel guilty. These feelings
and reactions are a normal part of the grieving process.
Grief is a natural reaction to the loss of someone important to you: it is the
emotion people feel when they experience a loss. Grief is also the name for the
healing process that a person goes through after someone close has died.
It is a very similar process for those experiencing a separation or divorce.
Although everyone experiences grief when they lose someone, grieving affects
people in different ways. How it affects you partly depends on your situation
and relationship with the person who died.
The grieving process is very personal and individual - each person goes through his
or her grief differently: grief is a very personal journey. Each of us grieve in
different ways. Some of us proceed quickly through our bereavement tasks.
Others need longer.
It may feel impossible to recover after losing someone you love. But grief does get
gradually better and become less intense as time goes by. There are many
different types of loss, and not all of them are related to death
or her grief differently: grief is a very personal journey. Each of us grieve in
different ways. Some of us proceed quickly through our bereavement tasks.
Others need longer.
It may feel impossible to recover after losing someone you love. But grief does get
gradually better and become less intense as time goes by. There are many
different types of loss, and not all of them are related to death
Normal Grief Reactions
When experiencing grief, it is common to feel:
When experiencing grief, it is common to feel:
- like you are "going crazy" unable to focus or concentrate
- irritable or angry (at the deceased, oneself, others, partner, higher powers)
- frustrated or misunderstood anxious, nervous, or fearful
- like you want to "escape" guilt or remorse
- ambivalence numbness
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During the times of grief we all need extra support - you may find something helpful to
carry you through the day, or through such times by visiting our Daily Morale Boosters Page.
There is also a Grief Work Seminars.
Reading, "Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep", "A Child Loaned", "For A Reason", "Miss
Me, But Let Me Go", to be helpful: also Divorce-Healing.
Klaas Tuinman MA
Dawn Cove Abbey
Deerfield, (Yarmouth County) Nova Scotia, Canada
(2009)
carry you through the day, or through such times by visiting our Daily Morale Boosters Page.
There is also a Grief Work Seminars.
Reading, "Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep", "A Child Loaned", "For A Reason", "Miss
Me, But Let Me Go", to be helpful: also Divorce-Healing.
- NOTE: If you, or someone you know, is having difficulty with your/their bereavement,
loss, separation or divorce, and you desire help: online - Distance Counselling Works
(see Counselling) for more detail (also Contact-Us): no risk - no obligation: or email:
outreach@dawncoveabbey.org
Klaas Tuinman MA
Dawn Cove Abbey
Deerfield, (Yarmouth County) Nova Scotia, Canada
(2009)
List I List II
Which List Is Right? Both. Each is descriptive of some of the emotions and functions we go through
when we lose a loved one. Grief, like so many other things in our complex lives, can't be reduced to a
neat list with absolute definitions, time-lines, strategies, goals, and completion dates. Would that it
were so easy
Remember that the grief process is not linear, but is more often experienced in cycles. Grief is
sometimes compared to climbing a spiral staircase where things can look and feel like you are just
going in circles, yet you are actually making progress.
Grief is as individual as those of us who feel it, and as varied as the circumstances of death which
occur.
No matter how you choose to grieve, there's no one right way to do it. The grieving process is a
gradual one that lasts longer for some people than others. There may be times when you worry that
you'll never enjoy life the same way again, but this is a natural reaction after a loss.
How do you know if your grief has been going on too long? Well-meaning friends and family might tell
a grieving person they need to "move on" after a loss. Unfortunately, makes people think they're
grieving wrong or too long, or that they're not normal. Every person takes his or her own time to heal
after a loss.
The way someone grieves a particular loss and the time it takes is very individual. We might even end
up being confused about when we should be done grieving. Actually, we'll probably never be done,
because there is no completion date to grieving... let your emotions flow through the stages of grief.
- denial, Shock and numbness (mechanical functioning and social insulation)
- anger,
- bargaining, Yearning and searching (intensely painful feelings of loss)
- depression and Disorganization and despair
- acceptance Reorganization (re-entry into a more 'normal' social life.)
Which List Is Right? Both. Each is descriptive of some of the emotions and functions we go through
when we lose a loved one. Grief, like so many other things in our complex lives, can't be reduced to a
neat list with absolute definitions, time-lines, strategies, goals, and completion dates. Would that it
were so easy
Remember that the grief process is not linear, but is more often experienced in cycles. Grief is
sometimes compared to climbing a spiral staircase where things can look and feel like you are just
going in circles, yet you are actually making progress.
Grief is as individual as those of us who feel it, and as varied as the circumstances of death which
occur.
No matter how you choose to grieve, there's no one right way to do it. The grieving process is a
gradual one that lasts longer for some people than others. There may be times when you worry that
you'll never enjoy life the same way again, but this is a natural reaction after a loss.
How do you know if your grief has been going on too long? Well-meaning friends and family might tell
a grieving person they need to "move on" after a loss. Unfortunately, makes people think they're
grieving wrong or too long, or that they're not normal. Every person takes his or her own time to heal
after a loss.
The way someone grieves a particular loss and the time it takes is very individual. We might even end
up being confused about when we should be done grieving. Actually, we'll probably never be done,
because there is no completion date to grieving... let your emotions flow through the stages of grief.
Taken from the book How Can I Help? Reaching out to Someone Who is Grieving by June Cerza Kolf. |
No matter how deep your sorrow, you are not alone. Others have been there and will help share your load if you will let them. |
Bereavement, Death, Divorce and other loss
An Introduction:
An Introduction:
Grief and Grieving: Stages/Process of Grief & Grieving/Bereavement
Only the Wounded Heal; Only the Separated Reconcile
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Different Kinds of Loss
Feelings of loss are very personal and only you know what is significant to you. Examples include:
Loss of a close friend Death of a parent, child (see below), sibling or relative
Relationship breakup
Subtle or less obvious losses can also cause strong feelings of grief, even though those around you may
not know the extent of your feelings. Some examples include:
Sudden versus Predictable Loss
Sudden or shocking losses--due to events like crimes, accidents, or suicide--can be traumatic.
There is no way to prepare.
Predictable losses--like those due to terminal illness-- sometimes allow more time to prepare for the loss.
Feelings of loss are very personal and only you know what is significant to you. Examples include:
Loss of a close friend Death of a parent, child (see below), sibling or relative
Relationship breakup
Subtle or less obvious losses can also cause strong feelings of grief, even though those around you may
not know the extent of your feelings. Some examples include:
- Loss of health through illness Loss of mental ability
- Death of a pet Change of job
- Move to a new home Graduation from school
- Loss of a physical ability Loss of financial security
- Leaving home Divorce-separation
Sudden versus Predictable Loss
Sudden or shocking losses--due to events like crimes, accidents, or suicide--can be traumatic.
There is no way to prepare.
Predictable losses--like those due to terminal illness-- sometimes allow more time to prepare for the loss.
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Loss of a child:
The death of a child, is one of the most excruciating
events, if not the most, that a family cand experience.
Very often, such losses are not predictable or
expected, and those are even more difficult to absorb.
And while all losses of loved ones are devastating,
perhaps the loss of a child is one of the worst.
If you have lost a child and need someone to talk to,
someone to listen - someone who understands,
please contact Sandra Cassell, our grief counselor.
Sandra lost her son and is familiar with all the
emotional aspects of such a tremendous loss.
Please see Contact Us on how to reach her.
The death of a child, is one of the most excruciating
events, if not the most, that a family cand experience.
Very often, such losses are not predictable or
expected, and those are even more difficult to absorb.
And while all losses of loved ones are devastating,
perhaps the loss of a child is one of the worst.
If you have lost a child and need someone to talk to,
someone to listen - someone who understands,
please contact Sandra Cassell, our grief counselor.
Sandra lost her son and is familiar with all the
emotional aspects of such a tremendous loss.
Please see Contact Us on how to reach her.
Death is too often still a taboo subject today, yet few people will go through life without
experiencing the loss of someone important to them.
Death is a part of life, it is inevitable and sooner or later we all have to face up to the reality of it.
We learn how to continue to function in spite of our losses through grieving.
How well we manage this will affect our quality of life
and how we subsequently relate emotionally to others throughout our lives.
experiencing the loss of someone important to them.
Death is a part of life, it is inevitable and sooner or later we all have to face up to the reality of it.
We learn how to continue to function in spite of our losses through grieving.
How well we manage this will affect our quality of life
and how we subsequently relate emotionally to others throughout our lives.