"I got a lot done."
Really means....
"I found 'Waldo' in almost every picture."
"We're going to be late."
Really means....
"Now I have a legitimate excuse to drive like a maniac."
"Hey, I've read all the classics."
Really means....
"I've been subscribing to Popular Mechanics since 1972."
"You cook just like my mother used to."
Really means....
"She used the smoke detector as a meal timer, too."
"I was listening to you. It's just that I have things on my mind."
Really means....
"I was watching that brunette over there mowing her lawn in a bikini."
"Take a break, honey, you're working too hard."
Really means....
"I can't hear the game over the vacuum cleaner."
"That's interesting, dear."
Really means....
"Are you still talking?"
"Honey, we don't need material things to prove our love."
Really means....
"I forgot our anniversary again."
"You expect too much of me."
Really means....
"You want me to stay awake."
"It's a really good movie."
Really means....
"It's got guns, knives, fast cars, and Heather Locklear, or Pamela Anderson."
"That's women's work."
Really means....
"It's difficult, dirty, and thankless."
"Go ask your mother."
Really means....
"I am incapable of making a decision."
"You know how bad my memory is."
Really means....
"I remember the theme song to F-Troop, the address of the first girl I ever kissed, and the Vehicle Identification
Numbers of every car I've ever owned, but I forgot your birthday."
"I was just thinking about you, and got you these roses."
Really means....
"The girl selling them on the corner was a real babe."
"I brought you a present."
Really means....
"It was free ice-scraper night at the ball game."
"I missed you."
Really means....
"I can't find my sock drawer, the kids are hungry and we are out of toilet paper."
"I'm not lost. I know exactly where we are."
Really means....
"No one will ever see us alive again."
"We share the housework."
Really means....
"I make the messes, she cleans them up."
"This relationship is getting too serious."
Really means....
"I like you more than my truck."
"I recycle."
Really means...
"We could pay the rent with the money from my empties."
"Of course I like it, honey, you look beautiful."
Really means....
"Oh, man, what have you done to yourself?"
"It sure snowed last night."
Really means....
"I suppose you're going to nag me about shoveling the walk now."
"It's good beer."
Really means....
"It was on sale."
"I don't need to read the instructions."
Really means....
"I am perfectly capable of screwing it up without printed help."
"I'll fix the garbage disposal later."
Really means....
"If I wait long enough you'll get frustrated and buy a new one."
"I'll take you to a fancy restaurant."
Really means....
"Someplace that doesn't have a drive-thru window."
"I broke up with her."
Really means....
"She dumped me."
Really means....
"I found 'Waldo' in almost every picture."
"We're going to be late."
Really means....
"Now I have a legitimate excuse to drive like a maniac."
"Hey, I've read all the classics."
Really means....
"I've been subscribing to Popular Mechanics since 1972."
"You cook just like my mother used to."
Really means....
"She used the smoke detector as a meal timer, too."
"I was listening to you. It's just that I have things on my mind."
Really means....
"I was watching that brunette over there mowing her lawn in a bikini."
"Take a break, honey, you're working too hard."
Really means....
"I can't hear the game over the vacuum cleaner."
"That's interesting, dear."
Really means....
"Are you still talking?"
"Honey, we don't need material things to prove our love."
Really means....
"I forgot our anniversary again."
"You expect too much of me."
Really means....
"You want me to stay awake."
"It's a really good movie."
Really means....
"It's got guns, knives, fast cars, and Heather Locklear, or Pamela Anderson."
"That's women's work."
Really means....
"It's difficult, dirty, and thankless."
"Go ask your mother."
Really means....
"I am incapable of making a decision."
"You know how bad my memory is."
Really means....
"I remember the theme song to F-Troop, the address of the first girl I ever kissed, and the Vehicle Identification
Numbers of every car I've ever owned, but I forgot your birthday."
"I was just thinking about you, and got you these roses."
Really means....
"The girl selling them on the corner was a real babe."
"I brought you a present."
Really means....
"It was free ice-scraper night at the ball game."
"I missed you."
Really means....
"I can't find my sock drawer, the kids are hungry and we are out of toilet paper."
"I'm not lost. I know exactly where we are."
Really means....
"No one will ever see us alive again."
"We share the housework."
Really means....
"I make the messes, she cleans them up."
"This relationship is getting too serious."
Really means....
"I like you more than my truck."
"I recycle."
Really means...
"We could pay the rent with the money from my empties."
"Of course I like it, honey, you look beautiful."
Really means....
"Oh, man, what have you done to yourself?"
"It sure snowed last night."
Really means....
"I suppose you're going to nag me about shoveling the walk now."
"It's good beer."
Really means....
"It was on sale."
"I don't need to read the instructions."
Really means....
"I am perfectly capable of screwing it up without printed help."
"I'll fix the garbage disposal later."
Really means....
"If I wait long enough you'll get frustrated and buy a new one."
"I'll take you to a fancy restaurant."
Really means....
"Someplace that doesn't have a drive-thru window."
"I broke up with her."
Really means....
"She dumped me."
| Translating Men (More) - Part II What They Say & What They Mean: Battle of the Sexes (Not again?. . . and the beat goes on!) |
| Peony – Dawn Cove Abbey Garden – June 07 |
Criticism is something we can avoid easily — by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing." ~Aristotle
. . . or . . . it can be turned around any time. Slay the dragons – especially the one of fear. . .
. . . or . . . it can be turned around any time. Slay the dragons – especially the one of fear. . .
Soundtrack: And The Beat Goes On
Estranged; disconnected – consumed by fear;
trusting others evaporated . . . without
distinguishing between those who could, and could
not, be trusted. Fear:
so. . . "hiding", dishonesty & deceit become the way
to avoid that . . . a trap. . . and the beat goes on. .
trusting others evaporated . . . without
distinguishing between those who could, and could
not, be trusted. Fear:
- Fear of emotional-intimacy.
- Fear of self-disclosure (major perceived risk).
- Fear of exposing your inner self (utter panic).
- Fear of being laughed at.
- Fear of being “tricked” into letting your guard
down and being betrayed one more time. . .
so. . . "hiding", dishonesty & deceit become the way
to avoid that . . . a trap. . . and the beat goes on. .
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Communication: a major people problem: the leading cause of relationship breakdowns. . . . .
“. . . never meaning what they say, now. . . and telling you nothing of what’s everything within me” . . .
. . . these are the Games People still Play. . . Motto of dysfunction: “don’t talk – don’t trust” (culture of mind-readers);
Communication: a major people problem: the leading cause of relationship breakdowns. . . . .
“. . . never meaning what they say, now. . . and telling you nothing of what’s everything within me” . . .
. . . these are the Games People still Play. . . Motto of dysfunction: “don’t talk – don’t trust” (culture of mind-readers);
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contact me at outreach@dawncoveabbey.org
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Article, haiku, humour and poem contributions are welcomed, and gratefully received
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